First: What is Teleiophilia.
Coined by canadian sexologist Ray Blanchard, teleiophilia refers to the desire for age disparity in a relationship- especially older man with younger woman.
In other words, I’m into old men. Not old to the pointof being gerentophilic (YUCK!), but someone at least 10 years older than me would do fine.
I’m not so much into the sugar daddy thing (although having a rich older boyfriend definitely turns me on very much) and neither am I an outright SPG. But I have a weakness for distinguished gentlemen who knows the nuances of Brit Humour. Put the above together and you’ll get this: yes I’m into older Ang Moh Men who can make me laugh (and make me come.)
My current obsessions are: Alan Rickman, Colin Firth (Mr Darcy, oh Mr Darcy! 
) and Felix Wong (Yat-Wah).
Perhaps it should be Gerontophilia instead. HAHAHAHA…
And I think a Kurt Freund contributed to the study o Teleiophilia too…
What is older? Is age to be measured in years only or in the experiences, and if we are open, the wisdom, that these experiences bring? With experinces comes the knowledge of “if I do this it will make her smile” and also “if I do this then it will make her cry, and when she cries then I am unhappy so I will not do that.”
My gf is significantly younger than I, and when she whispers in my ear “I am yours” that does not stroke my vanity but rather raises in me the challenge to be worthy of such a wonderful gift.
When I was younger she would have been a plaything to be used and perhaps when the newness was gone, to be sat aside for another. Now, seeing that death is closer then birth, I know that the way I treat her is also the way I will be treated, her feelings become mine, her joy mine, her distress mine as well. When I close my eyes for the last time, it is her smile that will be with me.
When I was young I didn’t care; now that I am older I don’t know how I can’t care. Now that I am older, I have finally learned how to love, I have finally learned how to commit, I have finally learned how to give, I have finally learned how to trust. I am finally ready to sit ego aside for the love she has to give.
Oh, and don’t let the stories of us older folks not being able to keep it up. She seems very content with only several times a day. And she also seems to be very content with the many years of experiences I can bring to our moments of intimacy as well. I have also learned that in play many things are possible which do not define who you are in life; close the bedroom door and enter another world. Leave the bedroom and leave that world, putting on your public face – and the two are not to be confused. Another lesson hard learned; for which she is now the beneficiary.
When I was young, foreplay started with the first touch; now I know that foreplay starts with a telephone call, continues over dinner, is part of the drive home, is a seamless part of the day until we fall asleep with a smile as the sun’s first light is seen in the morning. When I was young it was about me, my fantasies, my wants expressed and fulfilled; my needs to be met and a willing women was a way to meet my needs.
Now a willing women is my partner, my friend, my companion. Her feelings become mine as she allows mine to become hers. My needs are met with her smile; and in the morning whatever has occurred when she looks as me and says – that was fun can we do it again? – I am deeply happy.
So whatever label one wishes to put on our relationship – for us it works; and will continue to work for as long as we have together. “You will probably see me die” I told her one day. “Yes, but any of us can die tomorrow so I will take you for as long as I can.” None of us know how much time we have remaining and it is up to each of use to use that time in the best way possible – another lesson I have learned for life – as well as in the bedroom.
As for being ang moh, one gets used to that in Malaysia
ive never been so relieved in my entire life. ive had sexual feeling towards older men like 40-50 since i was 12 and im not 16 and have wanted to kill my self because of it cause i felt disgusting. ive been trying to figure out whats wrong with me for a long time, and now i can put a label on it and know that im not a gigantic freak or alone. i am so happy right this second, and now maybe ill feel less guilty when i fantisise about older men.
I’m teleiophillic too! I have an obsession with this guy thats like 15 years older than me. I was able to ask him out a while ago, and I still haven’t recived a reply yet. It really makes me anxious. I am really happy to know that I’m not the only one. ^-^
Hmm … and I’m into young girls. Teleiophiliac … so there’s a name for it.
It’s brought me some trouble in life, but I don’t mind. I’ll live with my desires.
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I’m teleiophiliac too!
Though some would generalize it as gerontophilia… but its best if we specify it more.
I LOVE Alan Rickman!
I, too, am a teleiophiliac. Good to know I’m not the only one who seeks someone with a little more maturity and life experience than the average 16-17yo.
That being said, I don’t date older men exclusively. Aside from the fact that many of them simply are not interested in me (which doesn’t matter, anyway — I’ve found my man), teenage boys are always good for a bit of fun. Any cougar could attest to that.